Pillars

Yes…I am still working off of my blueprint and building theme. It just seems appropriate for this post. As I opened up my daily journal of intention and change, there was a challenge on the page which is “Think of three people you admire and write about why. What can you do today to foster these same qualities?”. As I was thinking and writing, I noticed that all of those I admire include people in my tribe…they are my friends. As I reflected on this question and my writing, I was filled with such gratitude and overwhelmed with happiness that filled my eyes with tears of joy. How lucky am I to have these people in my life?! Just like the pillars in a structure or building, these people have held me up and supported me throughout my life. They showed me what it was like to be courageous, loyal, and determined. When my flame starts burning out, they reignite it. They fill my soul when it is depleted. They tell me when I am being an a**hole and love me through it. They remind me that there are no limitations in life other than the ones we create. They remind me that dreams are worth fighting for.

Who is in your tribe? If they do not build you up, then maybe it is time to let them go. Some questions to ask yourself (honesty with self is imperative here!!) when you are evaluating your relationships:

1. Do your friends place value on you as a person?
2. Are your friends genuine?
3. Do your friends encourage you to obtain your goals?
4. Do your friends challenge you when they can see your behaviors are not matching your values?
5. Are your values congruent with your friends values?
6. How do I feel about yourself when you are around your friends?
7. Do your friends hold you up when you are not strong enough to hold yourself up?

Another important question once you have identified your friends who are pillars…are you doing the same for them?

Much love, LJ